By: Dr. Al Townshend
Pets are our devoted and loyal companions that are always happy to see us and spend time with us. They never criticize, always forgive, and make us healthier and happier every day. They ask for so little and give so much.
If there is ever a downside to having a pet, it’s that they do not live as long as we do, and so there will come a time when we have to say good-bye and experience the grief and despair that comes with the loss of a family member and cherished companion.
Grieving is a process that often includes a flurry of different emotions which take time to manage and overcome. Despair, hopelessness, guilt, frustration and anger are just a few of the normal emotions that make grieving different for every individual.
Some considerations that might help with the grieving process
- There is no limit to the time it takes to grieve. It can last for days, weeks, months and even years. Grief can leave and return, often triggered by memories. It’s important to allow yourself the time you need to move through the emotions and be at peace.
- Never forget your other pets, they can grieve too. Give them a little extra attention and love to help them understand. Their grief can help you with your grieving process.
- Children often need special attention to help them better understand what has happened and that death is a part of life. Younger children can be confused about helping a terminal pet pass peacefully with the help of their veterinarian. Talking helps them express their concerns and opens the door to understanding.
- All family members should be encouraged to speak freely about their grieving process, the emotions, and their challenges. Revisiting fond memories can help everyone with their grief.
- Friends can help a family with the grieving process. Many close family friends may also be grieving over your loss, and many have been through the process and can support you in your grief.
- Many find comfort in holding a memorial service for the pet. It can help to bring closure and be a significant part of saying good-bye and healing.
- Pictures displayed in the home can spark tender and loving memories that keep the pet’s legacy alive. Making a donation to the local shelter, veterinary research or charitable pet organizations in the name of the pet can be a way for others to benefit from the importance the pet had in your family’s life.
- If overcoming the loss of a pet becomes difficult, there are support groups that can help families by providing information and sharing their experiences.
Kali’s Wish has a support page on Facebook HERE
You can also connect with a Buddy just to talk to someone who has also lost their beloved.
Write us: Buddy Connect
or call: 587.586.6138
Please, if you are in a truly dark place and need help, never hesitate to call 911 for immediate help.
Our Friends at OVC Pet Trust also offer this guide on Pet Loss: Click HERE
And connect with us anytime!